Do You Feel Worthy?

Charity Faith Love Podcast: Season 1 Episode 4

Something I think that is hard for people, especially those new to faith, is to know their worth and value. What I mean by that is I hear a lot of comments from people that have shown me basically how they don’t feel worthy of God’s love. I started paying more attention recently to what people say to me about themselves and others. We tend to kind of throw ourselves under the bus or we judge each other, and ourselves based on earthly things. Instead, we should be looking at ourselves like God. I feel like we sit there and think that we have done so many bad things that we ask the question to ourselves, “why would God even love me?” I think sometimes we may feel that there are others stronger in their faith that he must love them more.

I want to ask you some questions, do you feel that you are worthy of God’s love? Do you think that you have done things so bad that people you are close with and even God couldn’t possibly love you? Do you think you need to fix some things in your life before God will actually give you the love you deserve? Well spoiler alert-God already knows everything about you.

So, if you said yes to any of those, I will give you a quick, short answer. Are you ready? You do not have to do a single thing different or change anything and you are still worthy enough for God’s love. Even if you do not “believe” in him or think he exists, he still loves you. There is nothing you could have done or will do that will make him not love you anymore. Jesus died on the cross and secured your salvation.

Let’s dig into this worthy term for a sec. Some words that help me understand the actual term worthy include Deserving, honorable, notable, valuable, pure, praiseworthy. 

So, you are deserving of God’s love, you are honorable in God’s eyes, you are valuable to the kingdom of God, you are pure in God’s eyes, you are praiseworthy in your life that God is proud of you and loves you.

If this isn’t enough information, to help you feel secure and loved by God, let’s look at the Bible. There are so many stories in the bible, even just in the Gospels, of Jesus choosing people who didn’t feel worthy to be chosen. But I want to focus on the woman at the well because she is like most of us nowadays, I think. She feels ashamed of her decisions and is chasing love and lust in other areas of her life instead of chasing God. 

So go with me to John chapter 4 and I am going to set this scene up for you. Jesus was passing through Samaria on his way to Galilee. The Bible was very specific to point out that it was noon, which meant it was hot. Jesus stopped to take a break at Jacobs well while his disciples were looking for food. Now Jacob’s well was from the Jacob we know back in Genesis. You know, Abraham who had Issac who had Jacob who had Joseph. If you’re not sure who they are, I highly recommend you read Genesis starting about chapter 12, you will be pretty entertained and won’t be disappointed. So anyway, Jesus is at Jacobs well just taking a breather and secretly waiting. And then magically this woman comes to the well to draw water. I say magically but we all know Jesus planned this out. Why do you think he made sure he was alone? 

So let’s start reading at verse 7-26 (A few scriptures were removed):

Soon a Samaritan woman came to draw water, and Jesus said to her, “Please give me a drink.” He was alone at the time because his disciples had gone into the village to buy some food. The woman was surprised, for Jews refuse to have anything to do with Samaritans. She said to Jesus, “You are a Jew, and I am a Samaritan woman. Why are you asking me for a drink?” Jesus replied, “If you only knew the gift God has for you and who you are speaking to, you would ask me, and I would give you living water.” “But sir, you don’t have a rope or a bucket,” she said, “and this well is very deep. Where would you get this living water? Jesus replied, “Anyone who drinks this water will soon become thirsty again. But those who drink the water I give will never be thirsty again. It becomes a fresh, bubbling spring within them, giving them eternal life.” “Please, sir,” the woman said, “give me this water! Then I’ll never be thirsty again, and I won’t have to come here to get water.” “Go and get your husband,” Jesus told her. “I don’t have a husband,” the woman replied. Jesus said, “You’re right! You don’t have a husband— for you have had five husbands, and you aren’t even married to the man you’re living with now. You certainly spoke the truth!” “Sir,” the woman said, “you must be a prophet…. The woman said, “I know the Messiah is coming—the one who is called Christ. When he comes, he will explain everything to us.” Then Jesus told her, “I Am the Messiah!”

So why did I pick this passage to go with the discussion of worthiness or us feeling worthy? Because I want you to realize, God chose the women with five different husbands who were living unmarried with a man just for her to feel love and affection. She had her heart set on the things of this world thinking that men here on earth would fill her emptiness she continued to feel. She was searching the world for something that only he could fulfill. She was hopping from men to men and then everyone would judge her and tell her she was not good enough and other colorful words I’m sure. Then, she was believing them and those words and she felt that she was those terrible things. But Jesus showed her that she was chosen, and he chose to meet with her to tell her that she is loved, she is worthy of his love, she does not have to feel lonely and empty, that she could find her worth and value in him. He went out of his way in a city that normally Jews would not go just to meet this woman. 

This is what I want you to understand. One, the same Jesus that chose her, is the same Jesus that we know and that chooses us. Second, we are all children of God and have been put on this earth for a purpose. If you are still alive, it’s because God still has specific plans for your life. You are not unloved or unworthy of his love. If you are feeling empty, unloved, unholy, undeserving, it’s because your focus is on materialistic things, or your job, your kids, your spouse, or your addiction, or your satisfaction by how many likes or followers you get on social media. You are not putting your focus on how valuable you are to this earth, let alone to God and his kingdom. The bible is full of people who did not feel worthy, Moses straight up told God he could not get the people out of Egypt because he did not feel like he should have been the chosen one, he didn’t understand why he was so valuable. But what did God tell him, “I am the Lord who created this earth, I will be with you every step of the way.” It’s ok to be afraid or question things if we are worried. But when God is calling us to do something, it’s because he believes in us, knows we are capable of completing it, and knows we are deserving of what he will give us if we are faithful. 

You may be thinking, there are so many people on this earth, why me? Because God loves you, he knows your strengths, he knows how great you are at specific tasks, he knows what you like and dislike, he put you here for a reason. It’s not just to go to work, pay bills, take care of the kids, and go to bed. That would be a pretty miserable life.

My challenge for you is for you to actually tell yourself how valuable you are and give yourself some words of affirmation each day. I want you to feel the completeness that comes from God when you find your worth in him, and I want you to value the relationship that will come from that. It’s probably not something that will happen overnight for you, it took me about six months to find it myself. But what timeline are we really on anyway? When you are having a hard day, just remember to tell yourself that you are loved, wanted, and worthy to be on this earth. Don’t be so hard on yourself. We are all here together as believers trying to make the best we can out of this life before Heaven.

Much Love,
Charity